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  November 2/2009 - Monday 31st Week of Ordinary Time - All Souls  

 

LITURGICAL/THEME MEDITATION:

“Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you

from the foundation of the world”

UNIVERSAL CHURCH/WORLD EVENT(S):

On Theology in the 12th Century

SAINT OF THE DAY

Feast of All Souls

 GENERAL MARIOLOGY
Book Six - Chapter   VI

JESUS BROUGHT BEFORE PILATE. THE SCOURGING AND

CROWNING WITH THORNS.

 DIVINE MERCY

Divine Mercy in My Soul

NOTEBOOK VI

 TEACHING/TESTIMONY/CONVICTION:

The Truth About Love & Sex
A very good gifts

 

DAILY LITURGICAL MEDITATION

 
 
Monday (11/2):  Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world

Gospel Reading:  Matthew 25:31-46  (alternate reading: John 11:17-27)

31 "When the Son of man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. 32 Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate them one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats, 33 and he will place the sheep at his right hand, but the goats at the left. 34 Then the King will say to those at his right hand, `Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; 35 for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.'

37 Then the righteous will answer him, `Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed youe, or thirsty and give you drink? 38 And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? 39 And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?' 40 And the King will answer them, `Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brethren, you did it to me.' 41 Then he will say to those at his left hand, `Depart from me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels; 42 for I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink, 43 I was a stranger and you did not welcome me, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.' 44 Then they also will answer, `Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?' 45 Then he will answer them, `Truly, I say to you, as you did it not to one of the least of these, you did it not to me.' 46 And they will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life."

Meditation: What kind of future are you preparing for? What about the life to come after our death? God puts in the heart of every living person the desire for unending life and happiness with him. While death claims each of us at the appointed time, God gives us something which death cannot touch – his own divine life and sustaining power. In the Old Testament, one of the greatest testimonies of faith and hope in the midst of great suffering and pain is that of Job: For I know that my Redeemer lives, and that at the last he will stand upon the earth; and after my skin has been thus destroyed, then in my flesh I shall see God, whom I shall see on my side, and my eyes shall behold, and not another (Job 19:25-27). Jesus made an incredible promise to his disciplies and a claim which only God can make and deliver: Whoever sees and believes in Jesus, the Son of God, shall have everlasting life and be resurrected!

How can we see Jesus? He is present in his word, in the breaking of the bread, and in the church, the body of Christ. Jesus reveals himself in many countless ways to those who seek him with eyes of faith. When we read the word of God in the bible Jesus speaks to us and reveals to us the mind and heart of the Father. When we approach the table of the Lord, Jesus offers himself as spiritual food which produces the very life of God within us (I am the bread of life, John 6:35). He promises unbroken fellowship and freedom from the fear of being forsaken or cut off from everlasting life with God.  And he offers us the hope of sharing in his resurrection.  Is your hope and desire to see God face to face?

Jesus' parable of goats and sheep invites his audience to consider their lives in view of the age to come. What happens when you put sheep and goats together? Jesus' audience readily understood the need for separating the two. In arid lands, like Israel, goats and sheep often grazed together during the day because green pasture was sparse. They were separated at night because goats needed shelter. Goats were also less docile and more restless than sheep. They came to symbolize evil and the term "scape-goat" has become a common expression for someone bearing blame for others.  (See Leviticus 26:20-22 for a description of the ritual expulsion of sin-bearing goat on the Day of Atonement.) What's the point of this story for us? The kind of life we choose to live now and the moral choices we make will have consequences that determine our future – for better or for worse. Separation is an inevitable consequence of judgement. The Day of Judgement will reveal who showed true compassion and mercy toward their neighbor. As much as we might like to judge the parables, the parables, nonetheless, judge us. Jesus teaches us a very important lesson about loving our neighbor and taking responsibility for others. God will judge us not only for the wrong we have done but also for what we have failed to do. Now is the time of God’s mercy, for seeking his help and grace to turn away from sin, and to walk in his way of love. We can love freely, generously, and unconditionally because God has already poured his love into our hearts through the gift and working of his Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 5:5). Ask the Holy Spirit to purify your heart and to free you from hurtful desires that you may love as God loves and live charitably with all.

This parable is similar to the parable about Lazarus and the rich man (Luke 16:19-31). The rich man let Lazarus die on his doorstep and was doomed to crave for drops of cold water he had not thought of giving to the poor man. When Martin of Tours (who lived in the 4th century), a young Roman soldier and seeker of the Christian faith, met an unclothed man begging for alms in the freezing cold, he stopped and cut his coat in two and gave half to the stranger. That night he dreamt he saw the heavenly court with Jesus robed in a torn cloak. One of the angels present asked, "Master, why do you wear that battered cloak?" Jesus replied, "My servant Martin gave it to me." Martin’s disciple and biographer Sulpicius Severus states that as a consequence of this vision Martin “flew to be baptized.” God is gracious and merciful; his love compels us to treat others with mercy and kindness. When we do something for one of Christ's little ones, we do it for Christ.  Do you treat your neighbor with mercy and love as Christ has treated you?

The scriptures present us with the choice between two kingdoms – the kingdom of light and the kingdom of darkness. The choice is ours. Which kingdom do you serve?  God's kingdom lasts forever because it is built on the foundation of God's love and justice. To accept Jesus as Lord and King is to enter a kingdom that will last forever where righteousness, love, truth, and peace dwell. Is your life submitted to the Lordship of Jesus?

"Lord Jesus Christ, you are my King and there is no other.  May your love rule in my heart that I may think and act with charity towards all.”

Psalm 27:1,4,7-9,13-14

1 The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?  The LORD is the stronghold of my life;  of whom shall I be afraid?
4 One thing have I asked of the LORD, that will I seek after;  that I may dwell in the house of the LORD  all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the LORD, and to inquire in his temple.
7 Hear, O LORD, when I cry aloud, be gracious to me and answer me!
8 Thou hast said, "Seek ye my face." My heart says to thee, "Thy face, LORD, do I seek."
9 Hide not thy face from me. Turn not thy servant away in anger, thou who hast been my help.  Cast me not off, forsake me not, O God of my salvation!
13 I believe that I shall see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living!
14 Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage;  yea, wait for the LORD!
 

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UNIVERSAL CHURCH/WORLD EVENTS

 

On Theology in the 12th Century

"Knowledge Grows Only if It Loves Truth"


 
VATICAN CITY, OCT. 28, 2009 (Zenit.org).- Here is a translation of Benedict XVI's address today during the general audience in St. Peter's Square.

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Dear brothers and sisters,

Today I pause to reflect on an interesting page of history, regarding the flowering of Latin theology in the 12th century, which came about by a providential series of coincidences. In the countries of Western Europe there reigned then a relative peace, which assured society of economic development and the consolidation of political structures, and fostered a lively cultural activity thanks also to contacts with the East. Perceived within the Church were the benefits of the vast action known as the "Gregorian reform," which, vigorously promoted in the preceding century, brought greater evangelical purity to the life of the ecclesial community, above all of the clergy, and restored to the Church and the papacy genuine liberty of action. Moreover, a vast spiritual renewal was spreading, sustained by the exuberant development of consecrated life: New religious orders were being born and spreading, while those already existing experienced a promising renewal.

Theology was also flourishing, acquiring greater awareness of its own nature: It refined its method, addressed new problems, advanced in the contemplation of the mysteries of God, produced fundamental works, inspired important initiatives of culture -- from art to literature -- and prepared the masterpieces of the next century, the century of Thomas Aquinas and Bonaventure of Bagnoregio.

There were two realms in which this fervid theological activity developed: the monasteries and the town schools, the scholae, some of which very soon gave life to the universities, which constituted one of the typical "inventions" of the Christian Middle Ages. In fact from these two realms, the monasteries and the scholae, one can speak of two different models of theology: "monastic theology" and "scholastic theology." The representatives of monastic theology were monks, in general, abbots, gifted with wisdom and evangelical fervor, dedicated essentially to arousing and nourishing a loving desire for God. The representatives of scholastic theology were cultured men, passionate about research; magistri wishing to show the reasonableness and soundness of the mysteries of God and of man, believed in with faith, of course, but understood also by reason. The contrasting objectives explain the differences in their method and their way of doing theology.

In the monasteries of the 12th century the theological method was linked primarily to the explanation of sacred Scripture, of the sacra pagina, to express ourselves as the authors of that period did. Biblical theololy was particularly widespread. The monks, in fact, were all devoted listeners and readers of sacred Scripture, and one of their main occupations consisted in lectio divina, namely, prayerful reading of the Bible. For them the simple reading of the sacred text was not enough to perceive the profound meaning, the interior unity and the transcendent message. Therefore, they had to practice a "spiritual reading," leading in docility to the Holy Spirit. Thus, in the school of the Fathers, the Bible was interpreted allegorically, to discover in every page, of the Old as well as the New Testament, what is said about Christ and his work of salvation.

Last year's synod of bishops on the "Word of God in the Life and Mission of the Church" recalled the importance of the spiritual approach to sacred Scripture. To this end, it is useful to treasure monastic theology, an uninterrupted biblical exegesis, as also the works composed by its representatives, precious ascetic commentaries on the books of the Bible. Therefore, to literary preparation, monastic theology joined spiritual preparation. It was, in fact, aware that a purely theoretic or profane reading was not enough: To enter the heart of sacred Scripture, it must be read in the spirit in which it was written and created. Literary preparation was necessary to know the exact meaning of the words and to facilitate the understanding of the text, refining the grammatical and philological sensibility. Jean Leclercq, the Benedictine scholar of the last century titled the essay with which he presented the characteristics of monastic theology thus : "L'amour des lettres et le desir de Dieu" (The love of words and the desire for God).

In fact, the desire to know and to love God, which comes to us through his Word received, meditated and practiced, leads to seeking to go deeper into the biblical texts in all their dimensions. There is then another attitude on which those who practice monastic theology insist, that is, a profound attitude of prayer, which must precede, support and complement the study of sacred Scripture. Because, in the last analysis, monastic theology is listening to the Word of God, one cannot but purify the heart to receive it and, above all, one cannot but kindle it with fervor to encounter the Lord. Therefore, theology becomes meditation, prayer, song of praise and drives one to a sincere conversion. Not a few representatives of monastic theology reached, along this way, the highest goal of mystical experience, and they constitute an invitation also for us to nourish our existence with the Word of God, for example, through more attentive listening to the readings and the Gospel, especially in Sunday Mass. Moreover, it is important to reserve a certain time every day for meditation of the Bible, so that the Word of God is the lamp that illumines our daily path on earth.

Scholastic theology, instead, -- as I was saying -- was practiced in the scholae, arising next to the great cathedrals of the age, for the preparation of the clergy, or around a teacher of theology and his disciples, to form professionals of culture, at a time in which learning was increasingly appreciated. Central to the method of the scholastics was the quaestio, namely the problem posed to the reader in addressing the words of Scripture and Tradition. In face of the problem that these authoritative texts pose, questions arose and debate was born between the teacher and the students. In such a debate appeared, on one hand, the arguments of authority, and, on the other, those of reason, and the debate developed in the sense of finding, in the end, a synthesis between authority and reason to attain a more profound understanding of the word of God.

In this regard, St. Bonaventure says that theology is "per additionem" (cf. Commentaria in quatuor libros sententiarum, I, proem., q. 1, concl.), that is, theology adds the dimension of reason to the word of God and thus creates a more profound, more personal faith, and therefore also more concrete in the life of man. In this connection, different solutions were found and conclusions were formed that began to construct a system of theology. The organization of the quaestiones led to the compilation of increasingly extensive syntheses, that is, the different quaestiones were composed with the answers that ensued, thus creating a synthesis, the so-called summae, which were, in reality, ample theological-dogmatic treatises born from the confrontation of human reason with the word of God.

Scholastic theology sought to present the unity and harmony of Christian Revelation with a method, called specifically "Scholastic," of the school, which gives confidence to human reason: grammar and philology are at the service of theological learning, but so increasingly is logic, namely that discipline that studies the "functioning" of human reasoning, so that the truth of a proposition seems evident. Also today, reading the scholastic summae, one is struck by the order, clarity, logical concatenation of the arguments, and of the depth of some of the intuitions. Attributed to every word, with technical language, is a precise meaning and, between believing and understanding, there is established a reciprocal movement of clarification.

Dear brothers and sisters, echoing the invitation of the First Letter of Peter, scholastic theology stimulates us to be always ready to answer anyone asking for the reason for the hope that is in us (cf. 3:15). To take the questions as directed to us and thus be capable also of giving an answer. It reminds us that there is between faith and reason a natural friendship, founded on the order of creation itself.

The Servant of God John Paul II, in the beginning of the encyclical "Fides et Ratio," wrote: "Faith and reason are like the two wings, with which the human spirit soars towards contemplation of the truth." Faith is open to the effort of understanding on the part of reason; reason, in turn, recognizes that faith does not mortify it, rather it drives it toward wider and loftier horizons. Inserted here is the perennial lesson of monastic theology. Faith and reason, in reciprocal dialogue, vibrate with joy when both are animated by the search for profound union with God. When love vivifies the prayerful dimension of theology, knowledge, acquired by reason, is broadened. Truth is sought with humility, received with wonder and gratitude: In a word, knowledge grows only if it loves truth. Love becomes intelligence and theology the authentic wisdom of the heart, which orients and sustains the faith and life of believers. Let us pray, therefore, that the path of knowledge and of deepening in the mysteries of God is always illumined by divine love.
 

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DAILY LITURGICAL SAINT

   

Monday, November 02, 2009

Feast of All Souls
 

The Church has encouraged prayer for the dead from the earliest times as an act of Christian charity. "If we had no care for the dead," Augustine noted, "we would not be in the habit of praying for them." Yet pre-Christian rites for the deceased retained such a strong hold on the superstitious imagination that a liturgical commemoration was not observed until the early Middle Ages, when monastic communities began to mark an annual day of prayer for the departed members.

In the middle of the 11th century, St. Odilo, abbot of Cluny (France), decreed that all Cluniac monasteries offer special prayers and sing the Office for the Dead on November 2, the day after the feast of All Saints. The custom spread from Cluny and was finally adopted throughout the Roman Church.

The theological underpinning of the feast is the acknowledgment of human frailty. Since few people achieve perfection in this life but, rather, go to the grave still scarred with traces of sinfulness, some period of purification seems necessary before a soul comes face-to-face with God. The Council of Trent affirmed this purgatory state and insisted that the prayers of the living can speed the process of purification.

Superstition easily clung to the observance. Medieval popular belief held that the souls in purgatory could appear on this day in the form of witches, toads or will-o’-the-wisps. Graveside food offerings supposedly eased the rest of the dead.

Observances of a more religious nature have survived. These include public processions or private visits to cemeteries and decorating graves with flowers and lights. This feast is observed with great fervor in Mexico.

 
Comment:

Whether or not one should pray for the dead is one of the great arguments which divide Christians. Appalled by the abuse of indulgences in the Church of his day, Martin Luther rejected the concept of purgatory. Yet prayer for a loved one is, for the believer, a way of erasing any distance, even death. In prayer we stand in God's presence in the company of someone we love, even if that person has gone before us into death.

 
Quote:

“We must not make purgatory into a flaming concentration camp on the brink of hell—or even a ‘hell for a short time.’ It is blasphemous to think of it as a place where a petty God exacts the last pound—or ounce—of flesh.... St. Catherine of Genoa, a mystic of the 15th century, wrote that the ‘fire’ of purgatory is God’s love ‘burning’ the soul so that, at last, the soul is wholly aflame. It is the pain of wanting to be made totally worthy of One who is seen as infinitely lovable, the pain of desire for union that is now absolutely assured, but not yet fully tasted” (Leonard Foley, O.F.M., Believing in Jesus).
 

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GENERAL MARIOLOGY


 

THE DIVINE HISTORY AND LIFE

OF THE

VIRGIN MOTHER OF GOD

BOOK SIX

The Marriage at Cana; How Most Holy Mary Accompanied the Re-

deemer of the World in His Preaching: the Humility shown by the

Heavenly Queen in regard to the Miracles Wrought by Her

Divine Son;The Transfiguration of the Lord;His Entrance

into Jerusalem; His Passion and Death; His Triumph

over Lucifer and his Demons by His Death on

the Cross; the Most Sacred Resurrection

of the Savior and His Wonderful As-

cension into Heaven

CHAPTER VI.

JESUS BROUGHT BEFORE PILATE. THE SCOURGING AND

CROWNING WITH THORNS.

The sun had already arisen while these things happened and the most holy Mother, who saw it all from afar, now resolved to leave her retreat and follow her divine Son to the house of Pilate and to his death on the Cross. When the great Queen and Lady was about to set forth from the Cenacle, saint John arrived in order to give an account of all that was happening; for the beloved disciple at that time did not know the visions, by which all the doings and sufferings of her most holy Son were manifest to the blessed Mother. After the denial of saint Peter, saint John had retired and had observed, more from afar what was going on. Recognizing also the wickedness of his flight in the garden, he confessed it to the Mother of God and asked her pardon as soon as he came into her presence; and then he gave an account of all that passed in his heart and of what he had done and what he had seen in following his Master. Saint John thought it well to prepare the afflicted Mother for her meeting with her most holy Son, in order that She might not be overcome by the fearful spectacle of his present condition. Therefore He sought to impress Her beforehand with some image of his sufferings by saying: "O my Lady, in what a state of suffering is our divine Master! The sight of Him cannot but break one's heart; for by the buffets and the blows and by the spittle, his most beautiful countenance is so disfigured and defiled, that Thou wilt scarcely recognize Him with thy own eyes." The most prudent Lady listened to his description, as if She knew nothing of the events; but She broke out in bitterest tears of heart-rending sorrow. The holy women, who had came forth with the Lady, also listened to saint John, and all of them were filled with grief and terror at his words. The Queen of heaven asked the Apostle to accompany Her and the devout women, and, exhorting them all, She said: "Let us hasten our steps, in order that my eyes may see the Son of the eternal Father, who took human form in my womb; and you shall see, my dearest friends, to what the love of mankind has driven Him, my Lord and God, and what it costs Him to redeem men from sin and death, and to open for them the gates of heaven."

The Queen of heaven set forth through the streets of Jerusalem accompanied by saint John and by some holy women. Of these not all, but only the three Marys and other very pious women, followed Her to the end. With Her were also the angels of her guard, whom She asked to open a way for Her to her divine Son. The holy angels obeyed and acted as her guard. On the streets She heard the people expressing their various opinions and sentiments concerning the sorrowful events now transpiring in reference to Jesus of Nazareth. The more kindly hearted lamented over his fate, and they were fewest in number. Others spake about the intention of his enemies to crucify Him; others related where He now was and how He was conducted through the streets, bound as a criminal; others spoke of the illtreatment He was undergoing; others asked, what evil He had done, that He should be so misused; others again in their astonishment and in their doubts, exclaimed: To this then have his miracles brought Him! Without a doubt they were all impostures, since He cannot defend or free himself!

Through the swarming and confused crowds the angels conducted the Empress of heaven to a sharp turn of the street, where She met her most holy Son. With the profoundest reverence She prostrated Herself before his sovereign Person and adored it more fervently and with a reverence more deep and more ardent than ever was given or ever shall be given to it by all the creatures. She arose and then the Mother and Son looked upon each other with ineffable tenderness, interiorly conversing with each other in transports of an unspeakable sorrow. The most prudent Lady stepped aside and then followed Christ our Lord, continuing at a distance her interior communication with Him and with the eternal Father. The words of her soul are not for the mortal and corruptible tongue.

 
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DIVINE MERCY

 

Divine Mercy In my soul
 

The Mercy of the Lord I will sing Forever.
Divine Mercy in my soul.
Sr. Faustina, Diary
 

NOTEBOOK V I

J.M.J.
 

Once when I was on the veranda, I saw that a certain person was being troubled by strong temptations concerning Holy Confession, doubting its secrecy. Although I knew the condition of that soul, I myself did not start the conversation. When we were alone, she opened her heart to me and told me everything. After talking for a short while, she said to me, “I am at peace now; my soul has received much light.”

Today, Jesus made known to me that I should speak little with a certain religious sister. A special grace of God sustained me during the conversation, which would not otherwise have been for Gods’ glory.

The Lord said to me, Enter into purgatory often, because they need you there. O my Jesus, I understand the meaning of these words which You are speaking to me, but first let me enter the treasury of Your mercy.

Write, My daughter, that I am mercy itself for the contrite soul. A soul’s greatest wretchedness does not enkindle Me with wrath; but rather, My Heart is moved towards it with great mercy.

O my Jesus, give me strength to endure suffering so that I may not make a wry face when I drink the cup of bitterness. Help me Yourself to make my sacrifice pleasing to You. May it not be tainted by my self-love, even though it extend over many years. May purity of intention make it pleasing to You, fresh and full of life. This life of mine is a ceaseless struggle, a constant effort to do Your holy will; but may everything that is in me, both my misery and my strength, give praise to You, O Lord.


 

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 CATHOLIC  TEACHING/CONVICTION/TESTIMONY

   

The Truth About Love & Sex

CHAPTER 4

A Very Good Gift

by Keith & Tami Kiser

 

Sex: Good or Bad?

The June 15, 1994, issue of USA Today carried an incredible story about a very large group of courageous teenagers. At a Southern Baptist Convention, 103,000 teenagers signed cards pledging to save sex for marriage. The signing of the pledge cards was part of a year-long campaign called True Love Waits. Julie Putnam, a seventeen-year-old girl, explained what signing the chastity card meant to her: "It's a commitment to God-and also to my future spouse--to keep myself pure until I get married."

According to the newspaper article, not everyone was excited about this program. One member of the American Civil Liberties Union's Reproductive Freedom Project, Eduardo Capulong, called the chastity pledges "misguided." His reason? "It comes from the position that sex is bad."

Unfortunately, many people think like this man when it comes to God and sex. Because the Bible and the Catholic Church teach that sex is only for married couples, these people assume that God must view sex as something bad, dirty, and even sinful. A recent survey has shown that nearly eight out of ten teenagers think that God has a negative view of sex.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.

God Created It, Commanded It, Evaluated It

The truth is --God sees sex as a wonderful gift. God doesn't waste any time telling us what he thinks about sex. (He knows sex is a hot topic with us humans!) In the first few chapters of the Bible, three things are very clear:

1. God created sex.

2. God commanded Adam and Eve to "do it."

3. God even evaluated it (no kidding).

Let's take a look at what we mean.

As we mentioned in the last chapter, God made humans sexual beings. The Book of Genesis records that God made a male-sex person and a female-sex person. We know them as Adam and Eve. It was God's intention that Adam and Eve would develop a relationship and live as companions.

In fact, this relationship between the man and the woman was intended to be very intimate and even sexual. Here's how Genesis describes the creation of woman and her intimate union with the man: "Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.' . . . So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib which the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed" (Genesis 2:18, 21-25).

Did you notice that the man and the woman were created with a sexual relationship as a part of God's plan for them? The language is fairly explicit. The man and his wife "cling" to one another and become "one body." And they were naked, "yet they felt no shame."

Isn't this a beautiful passage about marital, sexual love? Is God frowning upon this union? No way. He created it.

This brings us to the second thing we can see about God's view of sex. God actually gave Adam and Eve a command to have sex. Really --he ordered them to "be fruitful and multiply." We all know where babies come from. So we realize that God is telling Adam and Eve to have sex.

Does God ever command us to do anything bad, dirty or sinful? No way. When God is commanding Adam and Eve to have children through sexual intercourse, he is ordering them to do something very good.

So that there can be no doubt in anyone's mind, God evaluates the sexual union he has asked Adam and Eve to undertake. "You mean to tell me, God watched them?" Of course. He sees everything we do.

You may remember from reading the creation story that God evaluated each part of his creation after he made it. For example, after making the sun, moon, and stars on the fourth day, God evaluated his work. "And God saw that it was good. And there was evening and there was morning, a fourth day" (Genesis 1: 18-19).

This same evaluation is found for the first five days of creation. In each of these days God looked at what he made and "God saw that it was good." When we come to the sixth day, we notice a small but significant difference in God's evaluation. Remember that the sixth day was when God created the man and woman and commanded them to have sex.

On this day, "... God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good" (Genesis 1: 3 1; emphasis added). Adam and Eve couldn't have agreed more! Sexual intercourse between a man and his wife is indeed very good, according to God.

A Very Good Gift (That's Holy, Too!)

It's our conviction (and the Catholic Church's solid teaching) that your sexuality is a very good gift from God. The Book of Genesis doesn't contain the only Bible passages that speak about sex in this way. In the Letter to the Hebrews, St. Paul goes so far as to imply that sex is holy. In Hebrews 13:4 we read, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous" (emphasis added). Now only those things that are holy can become defiled. If sex can become defiled, then St. Paul must be saying that sex (the marriage bed) is holy.

Can there be a higher view of sex than this? No. We are convinced that the Church's view of sex is superior to that of all others. Of course, this is what anyone would expect from the truth.

There's another book of the Bible that devotes much of its attention to celebrating marital, sexual love. That book is called the Song of Solomon (also Canticle of Canticles or Song of Songs).

In this poetic book, the newly married spouses take turns describing their affection for each other. For example, in the fourth chapter the husband describes with metaphorical detail the pleasure he takes in his new wife's body. He tells how lovely her eyes, hair, teeth, lips, mouth, neck, and breasts are. After surveying her beauty, the new husband concludes: "Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! / ... / You are all fair, my love; there is no flaw in you" (Song of Solomon 4:1, 7).

A few verses later he describes a kiss from his beloved new wife:

You have ravished my heart, my sister, my bride,
you have ravished my heart with a glance of your eyes,
with one jewel of your necklace.
How sweet is your love, my sister, my bride!
how much better is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
Your lips distil nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;

--Song of Solomon 4:9-11

Are you blushing yet? Yes, this is in the Bible! Does this surprise you? Can you believe it? We can.

The Bible celebrates marital, sexual love.

Reserved for Marriage Only

You may have noticed that the Bible passages we just looked at spoke about the very good gift of sexual love in the context of marriage. Genesis highlighted that Adam and Eve were husband and wife; the reading from Hebrews indicated that it was the "marriage bed" that was to be kept holy; and in the Song of Solomon it is the newly married husband that describes his wife's beauty. Indeed the Catholic Church has always understood the Bible to teach that sexual love is reserved for marriage only. (Cf. CCC 2350, 2353.)

In the remainder of this chapter we want to ask two related questions. Why does God see sex as a wonderful gift? And why does God reserve sex for marriage only?

What's the Big Deal About Sex, Anyway?

What is it about sex that makes God think it's "very good"? The best way to answer this is to look at why God created sexual intercourse in the first place. As we mentioned in the last chapter, God didn't need to make us sexual persons if he didn't want to. What purpose could God have in mind for sexual intercourse?

The Catholic Church has recognized that there are two purposes of sex. In technical language, the Church calls them the unitive and procreative ends of marriage. In more understandable terms, sex is intended to help unite two people in a lifelong marital bond, and it's designed by God to bring children into the world through this bond (procreation) -- Simply put, sex is both life-uniting and life-giving. (Cf. CCC 2363.)

Sex Is Life-Uniting

Sex has a powerful way of uniting two people unlike any other human action. We mentioned in the Introduction to this book that we had dated seriously for seven years before marriage. During the course of that dating relationship, we were best friends.

We saw each other nearly every day. We talked constantly. We spent time at each other's home. We went to the same high school and college. Let's just say that by the time of our marriage we knew each other very well and thought of ourselves as closely united. Our friends couldn't even speak about one of us without mentioning the other.

But we must admit our honeymoon had a profound effect upon our relationship. After having intercourse for the first time, our unity was established in a new and profound way. That first night of our honeymoon had created bonds that seven years of dating didn't come close to establishing. We're not exaggerating!

We had now experienced what Jesus meant when he said that the two shall become "one flesh." We'll never forget what we said to each other on that first night of our marriage. We mentioned that we couldn't believe that people just do this casually with different partners.

The Hebrew word for sexual intercourse appropriately describes the profound unity created by sex. When the Bible speaks about sexual intercourse, the literal Hebrew term it uses for the sex act is "to know." For example, the phrase "Adam had relations with his wife" is literally (in the original Hebrew) "Adam knew Eve."

We think that this is a great way to describe the life-uniting bond that sex creates. There is no more intimate "knowing" possible. Not only do you bare your body, but you also bare your emotions and your soul. In sexual intercourse, you give yourself completely to your mate and become one with him or her.

Pope John Paul II in his 1994 "Letter to Families" stressed that marital love is a self-giving love. He encouraged spouses to give themselves totally to one another out of selfless love.

Sexual intercourse is at the service of this kind of total self-giving. The sex act itself is both a sign and the physical demonstration of this total self-giving.

When couples marry, they give a gift to each other: They give themselves. It's a total gift. Next time you are at a Catholic wedding, pay close attention to the vows. What is each partner pledging to give to the other? One's total self.

Sexual intercourse is intended to strengthen that unity and to help make it a reality. Can't you see how beautiful this kind of self-giving love is? And how wonderful and powerful sexual intercourse is in the service of this kind of love? We can.

Can you also begin to see how sex used out of this marital context of total self-giving love is really a lie? The sex act is saying, "I give myself to you totally and I completely bind myself to you for life." But this kind of gift is not possible for those who are not married.

Sex Is Life-Giving

Not only is sex life-uniting, but it's also life-giving. We have a friend who is fond of saying that the marital union created by sex is so real, and the love so profound, that in nine months you have to give it a name!

With all the talk about condoms these days, it's difficult to imagine that sexual intercourse is actually designed for the making of babies. But why do you think condoms are used in the first place? They are used because we all know that sexual intercourse makes babies.

Think about it for a second. A couple who engages in sexual activity actually has the ability to create a new human life. This new child possesses a soul that will live forever. Sex is very powerful indeed.

When spouses bring a new life into the world, they are acting in a Godlike way. Only God can bring a new human life into being, but he has shared this ability with couples. Some theologians have even concluded that having a baby is the most divine action humans can perform.

It blows us away when we stop to think that Nathaniel, David, Emily, Seth, Michael, and John Paul Kiser would not exist if it weren't for us. God has given us a powerful gift in sexual intercourse.

We joked in the last chapter about how "messy" and painful childbirth is. All joking aside, the experience of holding your first child for the first time is incomparable. With tears streaming down our faces, we marveled over this little creation of our love. We couldn't believe that our love had actually made this little guy.

It's a shame, but because so much attention these days is placed on physical pleasure gained from sexual intercourse, many are missing the best part of sex: Sex is designed to make babies. God not only wanted Adam and Eve to become "one flesh," he also told them to be "fruitful and multiply." He wants the same from married couples today.

Consider our bodies, whose sexual organs are intended to aid in the creating of new life. God made the sexual organs reproductive organs. The sexual organs were not made solely for the pleasure of sexual intercourse.

Despite what we see on the tube or hear on the radio, sex is not a cheap plaything intended for sexual pleasure. Sex is pleasurable, but it's also much, much more. Sex is a sacred power that brings new life into the world.

Because of this sacred power to create new human life, sex is only right in the context of marriage. Sex is moral only in marriage, because marriage is the only context for making babies. Let's face it: Children need the love and nurture that only a mother and a father in a loving marriage can give.

The Twain Shall Never Part

We have already hinted at why God wants us to use sex only in marriage. But let's take a closer look at how the Church explains this.

The Catholic Church (remember, the Church is guided by the Holy Spirit) teaches that for any sexual act to be moral, both the life-uniting and life-giving elements must be present.

Now what does this mean?

Well, it's fairly simple. First of all, only those who have entered into the life-uniting bond of marriage can engage in sexual activity. (Keep in mind that sex has the effect of bringing this union about.) All sex outside of marriage violates this first part. It's simply not moral and less than totally human.

But there's more. The sexual act must also be open to new life. In other words, married couples who have sex must not intentionally try to prevent a pregnancy from occurring as a result of their act of intercourse. Each sex act must remain open to life.

There's a lot more to be said about this, but we're going to keep you in suspense until you get to our chapter on marriage.

God Is Very Serious About Sexual Sin

So far in this chapter we have tried to show you that your sexuality is a very good gift from God. In fact, it's even holy. As we've seen, God considers this gift very good because it's incredibly powerful. It has the power of intimately uniting two people and the divine power of bringing new life into the world.

Precisely because of its goodness, holiness, and great power, God takes sexual sin seriously. In fact, as far as God is concerned, sexual sin is downright deadly. In other words, sexual sins are grave and the stuff of mortal sin ("mortal" means deadly). (Cf. CCC 239 1.)

What do sexual sins kill? They kill God's life within us. They kill that supernatural life which God has given to us in baptism. Ultimately, mortal sins separate us from God and make us unfit for heaven. In addition, they lead to unhappiness in this world.

We know this, simply because St. Paul has told us this in a few of his letters. For example, St. Paul says that those who commit sexually immoral acts are not fit for the kingdom of heaven (see I Corinthians 6:9-10).

We'll say more about this verse in the next chapter and explain later what factors must be involved for one to commit a mortal sin. But the important point to be made here is that God doesn't take sexual sin lightly. Keep in mind that sexual sins are serious --not because God thinks that sex is bad, dirty, or sinful. No. It's just the opposite. Sexual sins are serious and spiritually deadly precisely because God thinks that sex is very good, powerful, and holy. Therefore, sex needs to be protected.

Our Junky Van Versus John's Red Sports Car

Our minivan has become quite a popular item with our youth group. Not because it's nice or new. No, actually, it's old (more than ten years old) and rather junky. What can we say? We have a large family and not much money. So we have an old van.

Like any older car, our van has a "few" quirks that make it an adventure for us to travel anywhere. The electric window on the driver's side doesn't go down and the window on the passenger side doesn't stay up. The passenger door will not open, making it necessary to enter the front passenger seat of the van through the sliding door. This can be a real pain because the sliding door gets stuck and doesn't open without being bumped from the inside.

On top of all this, the cassette player sometimes eats tapes. And every once in a while it will not eject them --one kid's Billy Joel tape was stuck for days. We had to pry it loose. In the process we broke the radio.

Oh, yeah, we should mention that at speeds over fifty-five miles per hour, the van shakes and shimmies. It has also been known to stall at that speed because of a carburetor problem. Out of mercy for the manufacturer we're not going to tell you what make or model it is. After all, it has over one hundred thousand miles on it and, knock on wood, it's still running.

Needless to say, we don't value our van very much. Would you? We don't even lock it at night. (Anyway, who could break into these doors?) Yet, we live in a neighborhood with a very high stolen-car rate. Our neighbors have had both their cars stolen over a six-month period.

Because our van is not very valuable to us, we make very little effort to protect it.

On the other hand, John Casella, one of the adult volunteers for our youth group, has a brand-new red two-seat Toyota sports car. This car is sweet. It has an expensive stereo with a CD player that holds six disks. The speakers are awesome. And the ride is smooth and low to the ground.

Unlike us, John takes great care of his car. He washes and waxes it frequently. It's always shiny and clean.

Now, John lives in the neighborhood with the second largest stolen-car rate in the country. John always locks his car. And he keeps it in his locked garage overnight. On top of that he had an alarm system installed --you know, one of those systems that triggers, if you so much as sneeze on it, a siren that would break your eardrums.

Now which car do you think the kids in our youth group would like to drive? No contest. John's. If you could choose either car for your own, which would you pick? The junky van or the red Toyota?

How Much Do You Value Your Sexuality?

The preceding is a very important question --because how much you value something usually determines the way you take care of it.

Do you value your sexuality as much as John values his car? Do you see your sexuality as a very precious possession? Do you recognize that it's a very good gift given to you by God? Do you view your sexuality as something holy?

If you do, like John with his car, you will go to every extreme possible to protect your sexuality from misuse and harm. You will cherish your sexuality and make every effort to keep your gift "clean" so that you can give it to your future spouse.

Or do you value your sexuality the way we do our van? Do you view it as something cheap and rather worthless? Do you see your sexuality as only a means to a good time on Friday night?

If you view your sexuality this way, you will leave it unprotected, as we do our van. Your sexuality will become easy prey to misuse and abuse. No effort will be made to keep it only for your future spouse.

The choice is yours.

Conclusion

We have tried to demonstrate that your sexuality is a very good gift from God. In fact, your sexuality is precious. We plead with you to treat it like John does his car --certainly not like we treat our van.

We guarantee that if you use your sexuality according to God's will, you won't be disappointed. Sure, it will be difficult at times --but the rewards far exceed any short-term struggle and sacrifice you might have to endure.

Unfortunately, if you should choose to treat your sexuality badly and use it in immoral ways, there are consequences of abusing this very good gift. The next chapter will examine some of those consequences.

 

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