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by Keith & Tami Kiser
Joel's Story
Joel and Keith were sitting in a
jam-packed diner in Pittsburgh at 7:00
A.M., talking in hushed voices, hoping
they weren't being overheard.
What Joel was describing held Keith
spellbound. He was describing his sex
life. (No, really, he was.) He was
talking about his past sexual exploits.
But do you know what the best part was?
(I know you can't wait.) Joel was
detailing how God's mercy and
forgiveness had worked an incredible
change in his way of life.
You see, by age eighteen, Joel had
bought totally into the media's view of
sex. It was then that he began sleeping
with his second girlfriend. But this
relationship lasted no more than nine
months. In fact, all of Joel's other
relationships lasted only a few months.
Joel related how he moved from one
girlfriend to the next, sleeping with
each one. All of these relationships
ended in the same way: Joel and his
former girlfriends ended up despising
each other.
Joel described his lowest moment as
the time he committed adultery. He had
slept with another man's wife, but he
had convinced himself that he had done
nothing wrong. "After all, I'm not
married" was how he excused his
behavior.
(Remember how we said in Chapter 3
that conscience can become muddled and
confused? Well, this is a good example
of what we were talking about.)
Joel's exploits continued for nearly
seven years. But something was wrong.
Joel wasn't happy; in fact, he was
miserable. How could this be? He had
what many guys dream of -many
good-looking girlfriends and lots of
sex. Yet, it didn't satisfy.
Joel was looking for answers. Through
a good friend, he got involved in a
Catholic group on a university campus.
(Joel was in graduate school at the
time.) It was through a priest he met
there that Joel realized what he must
do. He desperately needed to be
reconciled with God. He had totally shut
God out from his life through his sexual
sin. Joel needed to clean the garbage
out of his soul so that God could enter
his life again. He was sorry for his
sins and desired the sacrament of
reconciliation.
Joel related to Keith how this
confession was a new beginning for him.
He confessed his sexual sins to the
priest and made a resolution to stop
abusing his sexuality. Joel describes
this confession as a liberating
experience. He was now free from what
had been enslaving him for the past
seven years.
Joel admits that it's still a
struggle to keep from abusing his
sexuality. Many times he has had to
begin again through the sacrament of
reconciliation. Conversion and change
are a process.
Many, like Joel, have found a new
beginning through confession. This
chapter is about that hope --hope of a
new beginning. There is real hope for
those who desire to put their sexual
gift back together again. Those who have
abused their gift of sexuality can begin
again through the sacrament of
reconciliation.
But before we talk about how
confession can help, we need to discuss
a related question.
Why Do I Want It So Badly?
After one of our talks, a guy asked
us this great question. "I understand
that God wants me to save sex for
marriage. And I really want to please
God, but why do I want it so badly when
I know I can't have it?"
Why do you want it so-o-o-o badly
sometimes? Well, first of all, it's
simply because you're a normal human
being. God made healthy humans to be
attracted to the opposite sex. The
sexual attraction isn't a problem; it's
not even a sin.
But sometimes sexual attraction and
desire can get out of control. Why is
this? We know this can happen even when
we don't want it to. There is a reason
for this. It's a disorder called (excuse
the big word) concupiscence
(con-KEW-pih-sense). Sounds like a
disease, doesn't it? Well, in some
respects, it is a disease --of the soul.
And here's the catch: You have it. In
fact, we all do. Do you remember what we
said back in Chapter 2 about the first
sin of Adam and Eve? Let's refresh our
memory. Their first sin had a dramatic
effect on every human being that has
ever lived since then. Because of it,
all of us are born with original sin.
And with original sin came the condition
that theologians call concupiscence.
Concupiscence is a disorder that lets
our lives get out of whack. Namely, what
gets out of whack is our wants and
desires. Once they take charge, reason
and good judgment are thrown out the
window. As a result of this condition,
all of us have an inclination to sin. We
are attracted to sin, even though we
know it will only hurt us.
Have you ever been to the Pizza Hut
lunch buffet? You know, $3.99 for all
the pizza you can eat? Not too long ago,
Keith took a group of hungry guys to the
buffet after they had played golf. Every
one of them stuffed himself to the hilt
(including Keith). They had taken so
much pizza and bread sticks that their
plates were full of crusts and
half-eaten pieces. Most of them didn't
feel so good on the way home.
This was concupiscence (and gluttony)
in action. Rationally, they all knew
that they were eating more than was
healthy, yet the pizza was so-o-o-o good
(and so available) that nobody wanted to
stop eating until it became very
uncomfortable to eat anymore.
Our sexual appetite can become
disoriented in the same way. We can
desire sex, even though we know
rationally it's not good for those who
are not married.
St. Paul grappled with concupiscence.
He talked about his personal struggle
with it in his Letter to the Romans: "I
don't understand why I act the way I do.
I don't do what I know is right. I do
the things I hate.... With my whole
heart I agree with the Law of God. But
in every part of me I discover something
fighting against my mind, and it makes
me a prisoner of sin that controls
everything I do" (Romans 7:15, 22-23;
CEB).
Why do you want it so badly, when you
know it's harmful? Concupiscence, of
course. It's important to point out that
concupiscence itself is not sinful.
Although it often leads to sin, the
disorder itself is not sin. What one
does with the attraction determines if
it becomes sinful. Concupiscence can be
resisted and overcome. St. Paul tells us
how: "Who will rescue me from this body
(which is full of concupiscence) that is
doomed to die? Thank God! Jesus Christ
will rescue me" (Romans 7:24-25; CEB).
Unfortunately, many don't turn to
Jesus for help. Many of us are weak at
times. We just give in to our desires
and commit sexual sins. St. Augustine is
famous for asking God for sexual purity
"but not yet." Most of us want to do
what's right, but concupiscence gets the
best of us and we commit sexual sin.
(Cf. CCC 1264, 1426.)
This brings us to our next section: a
discussion of what it takes to commit a
sexual sin.
The Perfect Sexual Sin (How to
Commit a Mortal Sin)
We mentioned in the last two chapters
that sexual sins contain the stuff of
mortal sin. We'd now like to clarify
what is necessary to commit the
"perfect" sin --a mortal sin. Three
things are necessary to commit any
mortal sin (cf. CCC 1857): (1) The
action or thought must be seriously
wrong or grave (as we have said,
abuses of the sexual gift fall under
this category). (2) There must be
knowledge that what one is doing or
thinking is seriously wrong. (3) There
must be freedom from coercion or
force.
What this all means is that you
cannot commit a mortal sin by mistake,
accident, or force. You must know that
you are doing something very wrong and
you can't be forced into doing it by
anyone else.
Throughout this book we have been
trying to explain what's sinful when it
comes to sex. In Chapter 9, this will be
specifically discussed when we look at
"How far is too far?"
But what do you do if, like Joel, you
already know that you've abused God's
very good gift of sexuality? Let's look
at a famous example.
David Takes a 'Bath'
David had seen her before. She was
gorgeous. And he wanted her for himself.
But she was married. And her husband was
out of town on a military mission. As he
watched her bathe from his roof, David
caved in to his desire for her and
called for her. He had her brought to
his room; there, they committed
adultery.
No one would have known about it had
a "complication" not arisen. The girl
got pregnant. To say the least, David
was now in a terrible fix. What would he
do?
Her husband was sure to find out now,
but not if David could find a way to
cover it up. He'd do anything. Because
David was the king, he had the woman's
husband called home immediately from his
military duties. But why would he do
this?
David knew that when a husband and
wife have been away from each other for
a while, sex is extremely likely to
follow upon their reunion. (In America,
we have a whole generation called the
"Baby Boomers" who were conceived when
military men returned from World War
II.) David was hoping to cover up the
fact that he was the father of the
child.
But her husband, Uriah (how would you
like that name?), was too noble. He
wouldn't even go into his house. Because
his men were still at war, Uriah
couldn't live with himself if he had the
comfort of being with his wife. David
was bummed to the max when he discovered
that Uriah had slept on his porch. David
had to turn to plan B.
Plan B involved getting Uriah drunk
so that his defenses would be down and
he would then sleep with his wife. But
plan B met the same fate as the first
plan. Uriah wouldn't "just do it," even
after he had a few.
In desperation, David had to turn to
plan C. He killed Uriah. That's right,
David had Uriah killed. We need to give
David credit for a clever murder. He
sent Uriah back to the battle with a
note in his hand for his commander. The
note ordered Uriah to be sent to the
front of the battle. When he got there,
all the other troops were ordered to
retreat and Uriah was brutally killed.
Maybe you recognize this story. The
woman's name was Bathsheba and David was
the famous king of Israel. (This is the
same David who killed the giant
Goliath.) David was an otherwise
righteous man who fell into serious
sexual sin that led to murder.
The Bible records that David didn't
recognize his sin at first. (Talk about
a warped conscience!) It wasn't until
God used the prophet Nathan to awaken
David's conscience that he realized what
a terrible thing he had done. But once
he came to this realization, David
repented immediately with great
humility.
A Clean Soul
We tell you about this episode
because some of us can relate to David's
deep sorrow at offending God through
sexual sin. After he realized his guilt,
David wrote a song describing the
intensity of his sorrow and his search
for a clean soul and a new beginning
through God's mercy and forgiveness. We
know this song as Psalm 51. Here's a
portion of it:
Have mercy on me, O God, in your
goodness,
in the greatness of your compassion wipe
out my offense.
Thoroughly wash me from my guilt
and of my sin cleanse me.
For I acknowledge my offense,
and my sin is before me always:
Cleanse me of sin with hyssop, that I
may be purified;
wash me, and I shall be whiter than
snow.
A clean heart create for me, O God,
and a steadfast spirit renew within me.
Psalm 51:3-5, 9, 12; NAB
It's obvious from this part of the
song that David knew exactly what he
needed. More than anything, he wanted a
clean soul and he knew that only God
could give that to him.
Did you notice how many times in
these few verses that David asked for a
clean soul? In case you missed them,
they're worth repeating:
Verse 3: "Wipe out my offense."
Verse 4: "Thoroughly wash me from my
guilt."
Verse 4: "Of my sin cleanse me."
Verse 9: "Cleanse me of [my] sin."
Verse 9: "Wash me, and I shall be
whiter than snow."
Verse 12: "A clean heart create for
me."
David is describing what some of us
have experienced when we have seriously
offended God through a sexual sin. Like
David, we can feel tainted and dirty.
Sexual sins are especially good at
producing a feeling of defilement.
(Remember, sex is a holy act. When
something holy is abused, it becomes
defiled.) Because of this, David tells
us in another part of this Psalm that
all of his joy had departed because of
his sin.
The reason that sexual sin produces
such deep sorrow and pain is because
sexual sin is a very personal sin. Our
bodies are an intimate part of who we
are, and what we do with them touches
our very soul. This is why St. Paul
said, "Do not be immoral in matters of
sex. That is a sin against your own body
in a way that no other sin is" (I
Corinthians 6:18-19; CEB).
But David is not merely talking about
his feelings. David is describing what
had really happened to his soul because
of his serious sin. He had totally lost
that which makes our souls clean and fit
for heaven. He had lost God's life
within his soul. And without it, his
soul can rightly be described as
"dirty."
However, David knew exactly where to
turn for help. He turned to the very
person he had offended. He turned to God
and his great mercy and compassion. We
need to learn from David. Too often we
run from God by making excuses for our
behavior or by denying our guilty
conscience. Nothing could be worse than
turning from the very person who wants
to totally restore us and give us a new
beginning and a sparkling clean soul.
God is merciful, but he's not a
doormat. There are conditions to God's
mercy. David knew what they were. David
knew that God wants us to be humble
enough to admit our sins and sorry
enough to ask God for his mercy and
forgiveness. Here's how David put this:
"For you are not pleased with
sacrifices; / should I offer a
holocaust, you would not accept it. / My
sacrifice, O God, is a contrite spirit;
/ a heart contrite and humbled, O God,
you will not spurn" (Psalm 51:18-19;
NAB).
God will never reject our plea for
forgiveness if we are humble and
sincerely sorry for our sins. The
apostle John promised that "if we
confess our sins to God, he can always
be trusted to forgive us and take our
sins away" (I John 1:9; CEB). Do you
realize what a great gift this is? In
fact, God is so serious about forgiving
us that he gave us his Son to be
crucified for the forgiveness of our
sins. If that's not love and mercy, we
don't know what is.
Jesus and the Adulterer (A Mission
of Mercy)
If you had the kind of friends that
Jesus had, your parents would probably
freak. He hung out with thieves, crooks,
and prostitutes. One of the more vivid
stories in the Gospel is Jesus'
encounter with an adulterer. You
remember the story.
Jesus was teaching the crowds who had
followed him to the temple when he was
interrupted by a great commotion. "Stone
her! Stone her!" chanted the crowd. A
woman had been caught in the very act of
adultery. The scribes and Pharisees
brought her to Jesus to see what he
would do with her. They forced her to
stand in the middle of the whole crowd.
Can you imagine how humiliating this
must have been for this woman? How would
you like your sins dragged out in
public?
The Bible tells us that the scribes
and the Pharisees used this woman's
situation to try to trick Jesus. They
didn't care about how the woman felt,
but Jesus did. They were only using her
to get Jesus. They asked Jesus if they
should stone her as the law of Moses
prescribed for adulterers.
Jesus didn't play their game. He was
too concerned about the woman's soul. He
turned the trick around and said these
now famous words, "Let the one who is
without sin cast the first stone." At
these words, one by one all the
adulterer's accusers walked away,
leaving Jesus face to face with a woman
who was caught committing a serious
sexual sin.
Jesus could have cast the stone.
Unlike the scribes and Pharisees, he was
without sin. Yet, he had nothing but
compassion and mercy for the repentant
adulterer.
"Woman, where are they? Has no one
condemned you?... Neither do I condemn
you; go, and do not sin again" (John 8:
10-11).
"Neither do I condemn you." What
better words could this woman have
possibly heard from the Son of God? The
relief, the joy, and the jubilation she
must have experienced at the sound of
these words! Her sins were completely
taken away by our Lord.
Jesus summed up his own mission when
he said that he "did not come to judge
the world but to save the world" (John
12:47). Jesus is always ready to forgive
those who are sincerely sorry for their
offenses against God.
Confession: A Meeting with Jesus
Shortly after his resurrection and
before his ascension into heaven, Jesus
entrusted his ability to forgive sins to
his Church. John's Gospel records Jesus'
breathing on his apostles and saying to
them, "Receive the Holy Spirit. If you
forgive the sins of any, they are
forgiven; if you retain the sins of any,
they are retained" (John 20:22-23).
By the will of Christ, his ability to
forgive sins has been passed down
through the apostles' successors, the
bishops, to our Catholic priests today.
Jesus has set up his Church so that we
can meet him, just as the adulterer did,
for the forgiveness of our sins through
the sacrament of reconciliation. (Cf.
CCC 1461.)
"But I don't like confession. I'm
afraid of what the priest might think of
me if I tell him these things." We often
hear comments like these from teenagers.
All these. thoughts should vanish
when we realize what really takes place
in reconciliation. Confession is a
meeting with Jesus. "That's funny,
Father doesn't look like any portrait of
Jesus I've ever seen."
But seriously, in a very real yet
mystical sense, Jesus is present in the
confessional. He is present through the
priest because the priest is acting
in the person of Christ. When the
priest acts in a sacramental manner,
something amazing happens to him. He is
transformed into a werewolf (just
kidding). He really becomes an alter
Christus --in English, another
Christ. Not only is he another
Christ, but he is also ipse Christus
--Christ himself (Cf. CCC 1548.)
So you see, the sacrament of
reconciliation is really a meeting with
Jesus Christ. It's to Christ that we
confess our sins through the priest. And
it's Christ who forgives us through the
priest. Now, it's obvious that the
priest hears our sins, too! But did you
know that priests are under a very
serious obligation never to tell
anything that they hear in
reconciliation to anyone? They can't
tell anyone your sins. If they do, they
are immediately kicked out of the Church
and the priesthood. In fact, they are
not allowed even to think any different
about you. What's said in the
confessional stays in the confessional.
(Cf. CCC 1467.)
It's our unanimous experience that a
priest's view of a person only increases
when that person sincerely confesses his
or her sins. Keith will never forget the
excitement of the priests who had just
completed hearing confessions during a
high-school day of reflection. The talks
for the day centered on love and
sexuality. At the end of the day, there
were long lines for the confessional.
Many waiting to avail themselves of
reconciliation had tears streaming down
their faces. After the confessions were
completed (nearly forty-five minutes
past schedule), the two priests emerged
from the confessionals rejoicing at
God's mercy and grace at work in the
lives of those teens who had kept them
working overtime.
How Do I Make a Good Confession?
We have known many teenagers who get
bent out of shape over the proper form
of confession. You might hear someone
admit, "I haven't been to confession in
four years.
I'm not sure I know what to do. What
do I say?" It's really very simple. Most
parishes have a few times scheduled for
confessions during the week. Get a
church bulletin and find out when your
parish offers the sacrament. If you
can't go during this time, call the
priest and set an appointment. Most
priests are eager to offer you the mercy
and love of Christ through this
sacrament. According to the Catechism
of the Catholic Church, "priests...
must make themselves available to
celebrate this sacrament each time
Christians reasonably ask for it"
(No.1464).
Before you enter the confessional, or
reconciliation room, it's necessary to
make a good examination of conscience.
An examination of conscience is like a
spiritual checkup. During this time,
sincerely ask God to show you how you
have offended him.
A good way to make an examination of
conscience is to use the Ten
Commandments as a guide. Evaluate your
thoughts, words, and actions based upon
the Ten Commandments as Jesus understood
them. For Jesus, the Commandments had to
do not only with wrong kinds of behavior
but with attitudes of the heart. For
example, Jesus understands the Fifth
Commandment, "You shall not kill," to
also include hating anyone. Jesus
understands the Sixth Commandment, "You
shall not commit adultery," to refer to
all sins against chastity, including
lust (see Matthew 5:28).
Here are some examples of questions
you might want to ask yourself based
upon the Sixth Commandment:
Did I think impure thoughts? Did I
dwell on them?
Did I participate in impure
conversations? Did I start them? Did I
tell dirty jokes?
Did I look for fun in forms of
entertainment that put me at risk of
committing sins against chastity
(immoral movies, music, novels,
magazines, etc.)?
Before going to a movie or listening
to music, do I try to find out if this
could lead me to sins against chastity?
Did I willfully look at pornographic
materials of any kind?
Did I lead others to sexual sins
through my behavior or by the way I
dressed?
Did I fantasize or masturbate?
Did I engage in acts that led to
passion such as necking, passionate
kissing, and petting?
Did I do anything with my date to
intentionally sexually arouse my date or
myself?
Did I let my date and myself get into
a situation that could have easily led
to sexual sins or did lead to sexual
sins?
Did I have sex outside of marriage?
After you've prepared, go to
confession. But remember, this is a
meeting with Jesus. Tell Father when
your last confession was. If it has been
some time since you have been to this
sacrament, he will surely be glad to
guide you through it.
Remember, it's not good confessional
"manners" that's important --it's your
honest sorrow and desire for a new
beginning that really counts.
Four things are very important to
make a good confession.
1. Sincerely and honestly confess
your sins to the priest. Sincerity
and honesty are absolutely essential.
Don't make excuses for your behavior or
thoughts. Don't beat around the bush.
Humbly tell Jesus like it really is. No
one can fool God. All serious or mortal
sins must be confessed --that, as we
have seen, includes all sexual sins.
It's also wise to confess less serious
(venial) sins, because by doing so you
will receive God's strength and grace to
help you battle them more successfully.
(Cf. CCC 1458.)
2. You must be sorry for your sins.
Remember what David said in Psalm 5 1.
God will not turn away a broken and
sorrowful heart. This doesn't mean that
you need to cry every time you go to
confession or that the sacrament of
reconciliation must always be an
emotional experience, what's important
is that you are sincerely sorry for
doing wrong. True sorrow means you will
be making an effort not to repeat your
sins.
Your sorrow is expressed in the act
of contrition that the priest will
invite you to make after you have
confessed your sins. You can make one up
in your own words or use one you may
have memorized. Here is a standard act
of contrition (quoted from the
Handbook for Today's Catholics, a
Redemptorist pastoral publication) that
contains the basic elements of this type
of prayer: "My God, I am sorry for my
sins with all my heart. In choosing to
do wrong and failing to do good, I have
sinned against you whom I should love
above all things. I firmly intend, with
your help, to do penance, to sin no
more, and to avoid whatever leads me to
sin. Our Savior, Jesus Christ, suffered
and died for us. In his name, my God,
have mercy. Amen."
3. As the act of contrition
indicates, you must intend to avoid
these sins in the future. For there
to be true repentance, you must firmly
intend not to do them again. (More about
this in a minute.)
4. You must perform the penance
given to you by the priest. There is
no forgiveness unless satisfaction is
made through the penance, which is
generally a prayer or some small act of
service. At the end of confession, what
you have come to seek is given to you
--mercy and complete forgiveness. The
priest, acting in the place of Christ,
prays the following words of forgiveness
while extending his hands (some priests
will place their hands on your head): "God,
the Father of mercies, through the death
and resurrection of his Son has
reconciled the world to himself and sent
the Holy Spirit among us for the
forgiveness of sins; through the
ministry of the Church may God give you
pardon and peace, and I absolve you from
your sins in the name of the Father and
of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit."
"I absolve you from your sins." Those
who have fallen into serious sexual sin
know how wonderful these words sound at
the end of confession. The priest will
generally send you on your way with the
following or similar words: "The Lord
has freed you from your sins. Go in
peace."
These words are not meaningless. One
who has just made a good confession has
real inner peace. There can be peace
because a relationship with God has been
restored.
And this is what matters more than
anything. He forgives us completely! He
doesn't hold anything back or anything
against us. He has filled the penitent's
life with his life once again. He has
granted a new beginning.
'Go and Sin No More'
The last words Jesus spoke to the
woman caught in adultery are important.
After telling her that he did not
condemn her, he sent her on her way but
not before he commanded her not to sin
again. When we seek forgiveness from
Jesus, he expects us to make every
effort not to repeat our sinful thoughts
and behavior.
Reconciliation is a time for
repentance and conversion. Repentance
literally means to change directions. If
we are sincere about making every effort
not to repeat the same sins over and
over again, we need to come up with a
strategy to battle the temptations that
easily trip us up.
These changes aren't easy, but with
God's help they can be made. When we
confess our sins, we are saying to God
that we regret doing this sin in the
first place and that we will attempt to
change through his help. The next two
chapters lay out a plan that can really
help us make the changes.
Secondary Virginity
We have run into several sexually
active teenagers who mistakenly think
that, once they have abused their
sexuality, they might as well do it
again. After all, the gift has already
been abused, so what's the point of
protecting a gift that's already opened?
This might be valid thinking if it
weren't for the sacrament of
reconciliation. The truth is: This
sacrament gives us a totally new
beginning with God and others. Here's
how St. Paul put it: "Anyone who belongs
to Christ is a new person. The past is
forgotten, and everything is new. God
has done it all!" (2 Corinthians
5:17-18; CEB).
It's true that one can never change
what he or she did in the past. Some of
the consequences of this sin will always
stay with you. But it's also true that
one can have a fresh start through
reconciliation. In this sacrament, a new
you can be born.
The truth of God's mercy has led many
teenagers to embrace the concept of
secondary virginity. These teenagers
were once sexually active but have since
made a commitment to protect their
renewed gift.
A New Beginning -- As Often as You
Need It
How often do I need to go to
confession? We have a priest friend who
answers that question with another
question: How often do you take a
shower?
Well, how often do you take a
shower? If you're like most teenagers,
you probably take a shower every day. If
you're used to taking a shower this
often and you miss one day, you probably
feel pretty dirty and slimy. Many of us
take daily showers because we don't like
our bodies to be dirty.
As we saw with King David, sin
dirties our souls --serious sin makes it
really stink. Imagine what would happen
and how you would feel if you didn't
take a shower for over a month. Nobody
could stand you. Talk about B.O.! Who
would want to be around you? Even you
couldn't stand yourself.
Likewise, when our souls are dirty
because of sin we need to bathe them in
God's mercy and forgiveness. How often
do you need to go to confession? As
often as you need it!
Let's face it. Sexual morality can be
difficult to practice these days. God
understands our weaknesses and is ready
to forgive us as often as we need it.
There's no reason to carry around a
rotting, stinking soul, when there's a
remedy at your local rectory. Many
saints have recommended confession at
least once a month. But if you need to
go every week, go every week.
Frequent confession is a good idea,
not only because it forgives sins, but
because it also fortifies our soul
against future temptations. Frequent
confession is like "rust-proofing" your
soul. Cars are rust-proofed to protect
them against the elements that eat away
at metal and eventually ruin cars. Our
souls need a similar type of protection
from the grime of sexual temptation.
Frequent confession provides just this
protection by helping us to fight
temptation and follow God's will.
Sexual morality is difficult, but
it's far from impossible. We now turn to
some practical ways to help you fight a
winning battle against hormones gone
wild. |
